Questions for two
40 questions for couples, from light to deep
Good questions are the easiest way to have a real conversation. Whether you have just met or have been together for years, there is always more to find out about each other. The trick is to start light and let the conversation get deeper on its own, instead of jumping straight into the big topics.
Here is how it works. Take turns picking a question, and both of you answer it. Ask follow-up questions when something sounds interesting, and skip any question that doesn’t feel right today. There is no need to get through the whole list. Sometimes one good question is enough for a whole evening.
The questions below come from two decks in Say It!. Date Night has relaxed, curious questions for a date or a cozy evening at home. Deep Talk has honest questions about life, love and what really matters. We sorted 40 of them into three parts, so you can start easy and go as deep as you both like.
Light date night openers
From the Date Night deck. Easy questions that get you talking and laughing.
- What's your favorite way to spend a Sunday?
- What's the best trip you've ever been on?
- Do you have any hidden talents?
- What's your go-to comfort food?
- What's something that always makes you laugh?
- What hobby would you pick up if time and money weren't an issue?
- What's the best meal you've ever had?
- If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
- If you could time travel, would you go to the past or future?
- What's your karaoke song?
- What's the weirdest food combination you enjoy?
- What's your comfort movie that you could watch over and over?
- What's something you're terrible at but love doing anyway?
- What would you do if you had no fear?
Getting closer
Also from Date Night. A little more personal, good once you are both relaxed.
- What's something most people don't know about you?
- What's the best advice you've ever received?
- How do you show someone you care about them?
- What makes you feel most alive?
- What's something you've changed your mind about over the years?
- How do you like to communicate in a relationship?
- What makes a relationship successful in your opinion?
- What makes you feel truly happy?
- If you could relive one day of your life, which would it be?
- What's your favorite childhood memory?
- How do you see yourself in 5 years?
Deep talk
From the Deep Talk deck. Take your time with these and really listen.
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- What does happiness mean to you?
- What would your 10-year-old self think of you now?
- What's the bravest thing you've ever done?
- What do you want people to understand about you?
- What's the best decision you've ever made?
- How do you define love?
- What does true intimacy mean to you?
- What's the hardest thing about being vulnerable?
- How do you maintain your identity in a relationship?
- What does healthy communication look like to you?
- How has your understanding of love evolved?
- What does it mean to truly know someone?
- What conversations have you been avoiding?
- What question do you wish someone would ask you?
How to play it with Say It!
You will find Date Night and Deep Talk in Talk mode. Put the phone between you and tap through the cards one by one. The app shuffles the questions, so every evening feels a little different.
Both decks are unlocked with a single one-time purchase, with no subscription and no ads. If you want to try the app first, the 36 questions to fall in love and Match mode are free.